Ever sit down to meditate for 15 minutes and it takes you 14 minutes for your ‘mind complaints’ to calm down? Maybe you had a couple heated words with someone before leaving for work. Does this sound familiar?:
Does he really think that? He said….. What a jerk. No, I shouldn’t call him names. But he really does act like one. Blah, Blah, Blah. Reminds me of…. That wasn’t fair either. Am I just doomed to put up with this stuff? Blah, Blah, Blah. I’m hurt/sad/pissed off……
Words and circumstances are different but I can bet the idea is the same. We react to the people around us, especially those we live with. Well, I can only speak for myself I guess. I react to the person I live with and after something has bothered me, unless my mind is focused on something else important, I am running some version of the above ‘mind complaint.’ So as soon as I stop, let’s say to shower or to sit and meditate, my mind picks up the complaining right where it left off. And not only does my mind complain, but my emotions follow suit. Then I’m left with crummy emotions which is ultimately draining physically.
Our thoughts create out emotions and our emotions determine how we feel.
Okay, okay so you probably know that by now. So you may be thinking, “Susan tell me then, how do I ease my mind from its complaining?”
Here is a 3 step exercise to ease your complaining mind anytime:
- Take 3 deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth.
- Begin complaining out loud while tapping on the points of the face (shown in the picture). Tap about 10 times on each point and move to the next one. Continue around the points 3 times.
- Take a deep breath on each point as you turn your attitude around by saying ways you want to feel. Examples, “I feel great. I feel comfortable. I am happy. I am relaxed.” Tap on each point 10 times saying positive things out loud.
That’s it folks. Try it before meditating. It is worth taking the 5 minutes from your sit time to clear yourself up first. If you want to follow along with me in another exercise click here.
Happy tapping and be well, Susan