Seriously, ALL self-help and spiritual teachings contain some form of this: Your thoughts create your experiences. What I find baffling is that, first, it is not taught in schools, and second that EVERYONE is not aware of this ‘law’, and third, we don’t ALL carefully monitor and steer our thoughts. Even after 15 years as a therapist and tapping/EFT practitioner, my thoughts still get the best of me far too often.
Even the Bible says, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” (Philippians 4:8)
In other words, think good thoughts and look for the best in everything. I have been on the journey toward more positive thoughts for 24 years. The habit of negative thinking, excuse my French is a BITCH. (Yikes, I’m swearing a paragraph after quoting the Bible.) Being stuck in a negative mind has NO reprieve, no breaks, no vacations, and no escape. Please hear me, if you are depressed, anxious, angry, frustrated, or fed up with your life… you are not making it any better by thinking about all your problems and who created them.
At some point we all need to take responsibility for what we are focusing on and if we are thinking about stuff we hate incessantly. Yes, THEY might have done this or that to you, but YOU are choosing to think about it again and again making yourself miserable.
Let me just say that having a heartfelt talk with a friend when you have an issue or speaking to a counselor is surely fine and possibly healing. And surely, some STUFF is tough. BUT rehashing your pain, the times you’ve been hurt, who’s screwed you over, and on and on is a recipe for misery.
Think about things that make you happy. Think about people who’ve helped you. Think about times you succeeded. Think about times you’ve made someone feel good. Think about times you felt loved and respected (2 minute guided meditation). Not only will you feel better. More of the good stuff will come your way.
Be well. Sending Love, Susan