We all know the phrase that change is the only constant in life. Yet we still fear change. We like what’s familiar and comfortable. We like knowing what to expect because it gives us a sense of safety. Change means uncertainty, the unknown. It can fill us with fear and doubt about our ability to handle the new. Whether it’s worrying about a new job or an ending relationship or even having an unexpected addition to our normal daily routine, we’ve all experienced some level of fear about the uncertainty of the unknown.
But change can also be fun. It’s an opportunity for growth. Change brings with it new possibilities of going outside the box, of switching up our predictable (and maybe sometimes boring) routines. Change can inspire us to rise to a new standard in order to deal with a challenge.
Feeling nervous about change is completely normal. As human beings, it’s natural to want to feel safe and to be able to trust that we can handle the situations that life gives us. I recently graduated from college and am moving to New York City this summer to begin an adventure in modeling. Am I excited? Of course!! But am I also nervous? Absolutely!
Ultimately, change is inevitable. Just like the seasons of nature, life has it’s own seasons. We grow up, we have relationships, we may move or change jobs, etc.
So how can we learn to embrace change instead of fearing it?
One of the things that I have found to be the most helpful in calming my anxiety about the unknown is remembering to be grateful. When I remember all the things I’m grateful for, it helps me focus on what is going right, taking me out of my fear about the unknown. It keeps me present in the moment instead of worrying about the future (which I can’t control).
Doing this exercise right now, I’m particularly grateful for the loving support of my family and friends. As I’m transitioning from school to NY, I’ve certainly had my moments of doubt and tension. But when I remember (and actually feel in my body as I go through the memories) how much belief in me they have, I know in my heart that I can absolutely handle anything.
Another helpful strategy for dealing with change is to think about all the times that you’ve handled the unexpected successfully. By remembering the past positive experiences, you’re reminded of how capable you actually are. Maybe you’ll even see how your “failures” actually taught you an important lesson.
Finally, visualizing or setting an intention for what you want to create from the change is the last important step that I’ve found helpful and would like to share. Instead of thinking about what you don’t want, an optimistic visualization or intention keeps you solution oriented.
I’d like to end with a few questions that may be helpful in thinking about any changes going on in your life right now…
What can you remember to be grateful for?
How have you successfully handled change in the past?
What can you create through this space of the unknown?
With light and love,