Question: Dear Susan, I have a direct booking to Milan from New York. The airline ticket arrived today with my schedule. (The hours are long and I have several fittings.) My boyfriend really wants to go with me. Can I do that? I would just see him after work. What do you think?
— Signed, Italy Here I (We) Come
Answer: Ah, you and your honey feeding the birds in front of the Duomo (Gothic Milan Cathedral). Sharing a meal in a classic piazza (public square) restaurant. Sounds delightful, but the birds descending upon you will be pigeons and just try getting a plant based low calorie meal in Milan!
My first response is make it “Italy Here I Come.” You are a professional model. The fact that you are being flown all the way across the Atlantic means the job is important to the client. They will be expecting a lot from you. Showing up with your boyfriend may irritate them.
Now, let’s consider you in this scenario. You will be, what I refer to as, ‘on’ all day– on your feet, on your game, on your top performance. At the end of each day you’ll be pooped while your honey will be raring to go. It’s not the most glamorous thing, but I spent most evenings gently removing my make-up, re-doing my manicure, and getting to bed early. You should be doing the same to ensure you’re refreshed and ready for the next day’s shoot.
Okay, if you are not convinced and the allure of a romantic adventure in Europe is too great, please do the following:
- Explain to your boyfriend how hard you’ll be working and ask him if he’ll agree to some quiet nights in the hotel room.
- If his answer is yes, then ask your agent to inquire if you will have your own room during your stay. The last thing you want is to have a roommate and show up with a dude.
- If the answer is yes, consider asking the client if it is okay to bring your boyfriend.
That’s it. Remember, you are a professional. Just because you’re young, it doesn’t mean you want to act it. Longevity in a modeling career has just as much to do with how you conduct yourself as it does with how you photograph or pose. Maybe more.
Bon Voyage, Susan